Sunday, July 29, 2012

Child Sex Abuse Victims, Penn State, Joe Paterno & Jerry Sandusky

Recently the NCAA handed down an extremely harsh penalty on the Penn State football program due to the absolute abhorrent handling by university officials of child sex crimes committed by former assistant coach Jerry Sandusky. Caught in the fray of this disaster is the late legendary Penn State football head coach Joe Paterno. Many have debated whether the NCAA's punishment was too harsh and also many have debated what will become of Paterno's legacy. One thing that should not be in debate is the seriousness of child sex abuse and the damage it can cause its victims.

No doubt the $60 million fine, reductions in scholarships, four year ban from post season play and now sullied reputation will hurt Penn State football for some years to come. Unfortunately there will be a lot of innocent people directly and indirectly involved with the program that will be negatively affected. There are scores of people who have jobs and businesses who count on the success of Penn State football. I can only hope that their negative impact will be limited. At least for the current PSU football players, the NCAA is giving them a free pass to leave for another program if they choose to do so without having to lose any time or eligibility.

Paterno's legacy, built on decades of numerous positive contributions such as raising the visibility of Penn State, teaching countless boys how to be men, and bringing in millions (if not billions) of dollars to the university, in an instant has been wiped away. Though "Joe Pa" was not the man committing these heinous crimes, at one point he did know about Sandusky's behavior and he (along with other university officials) all but looked away seemly to protect the stout and profitable football program. Paterno (and others) tried to prevent the football program from getting a black eye; instead his actions (or lack thereof) has placed the program on life support. And much worse, Paterno's "actions"  potentially placed many more children in harm's way.

I am no psychiatrist and I haven't conducted any scientific studies but sexual child abuse is a VERY SERIOUS PROBLEM; it happens way more often than we think and the effect that it has on its victims is immeasurable. It makes my stomach literally turn when I think about what happens to these innocent kids and makes my blood boil when I think of the predators/perpetrators. As an adult male I cannot tell you the amount of adult female friends and acquaintances that have shared their painful stories of being sexually abused as children. Every kind of sexual abuse from having someone exposing themselves to them, to touching their private parts to actual sexual intercourse. The abusers are generally from a wide range of folks within these victim's inner circle: biological fathers, stepdads, mother's boyfriends, uncles, cousins, neighbors, family friends and more. They all "abused" their authority over the children. Almost every single one of them threatened the child, usually by telling them their mother and other loved ones would be harmed if they spoke about what was happening. And yes I say "happening" because most was being abused on a consistent basis.

These selfish despicable predators don't comprehend the sometimes lifelong damage they create for their victims. Most victims I know never told anyone. The guilt and shame of being abused prevents a lot of them from having healthy relationships with other people. As kids, most blamed themselves somehow for it all happening. A couple of them even thought it was normal behavior and that everyone was doing those acts. But once the victim gets older and they understand more fully what has happened to them, how they were abused and taken advantage of, how do they reconcile that alone?  Depression, confusion and lack of trust are just a few things victims may wrestle with as adults. And what compounds the issue is when an enabler is involved. A couple of victims I know, in the situation where it was the mother's boyfriend who was the abuser, did tell their mother what was going on, AND THE MOTHER DIDN'T WANT TO BELIEVE THEM. These mothers, apparently so worried they would lose their "man", made a "business/emotional" decision to look the other way. As a victim, how do you reconcile that? Paterno and other university officials essentially became these type of  "mothers"; sacrificing the health and safety of children to protect something they valued. The enabler is ALWAYS A LOSER too because they contribute to the destruction of lives and that is never worth what it is they try to protect.

In the Penn State scandal, all of the victims I heard about were boys. I personally can't say that I know any males that were abused but today I am convinced that I actually do know some, they just haven't spoken up about it. The stigma of being abused and raped is harsh and for a male that has been abused by another male....well lets say that more likely than not those actions are never ever discussed. We have had some celebrity men discuss their ordeals in recent years, notably former NFL wide receiver Laveranues Coles and R&B singer Rahsaan Patterson, but many males have and will continue to remain silent. They will never tell a soul, not even their spouses. But this silence and these stigmas are part of the problem. The silence of the victims and the silence about the victims is no match for the deafening and piercing internal torture that they face.

The truth is as vile as Sandusky's actions were (and as irresponsible as the university's response was) it is just a mere drop of what goes on daily in the lives of children across the world. Again, I have not conducted a scientific study but if you are reading this more than likely you may have been abused yourself or you know someone that has. That is shameful. We have to be better. We have to do better. Silence has created an environment for these predators to roam. Maybe if we spoke up more about these tragedies, less of them would occur. If we spoke more about them, other victims who feel shame and guilt may feel more comfortable to speak up. Maybe they will feel some alleviation knowing that they are not alone. We have to teach our kids to speak up and let them know we will be there for them. As I mentioned, an overwhelming amount of these predators are people that victims know and trust. Sandusky had a foundation for underprivileged kids; it appears he used it as his personal playground. Those vulnerable kids needed his help not his abuse. And while he pays for his crimes in jail for the rest of his life, what type of "payment" will his victims make for the rest of their lives? I don't know what lasting effects this situation will have on the Penn State football program or on Paterno's legacy but I don't think it will be as harsh as it will be on Sandusky's victims.


Sunday, July 22, 2012

Jeremy Lin Leaves the Knicks for the Rockets: Don't Believe The Hype

Jeremy Lin, who was a restricted free agent of the New York Knicks, signed a 3 year $25 million offer sheet with the Houston Rockets. The Knicks brass decided not to match this offer sheet and consequently, Lin is now a very rich man and projected starting point guard for the Rockets. This recent series of events is just the latest chapter in one the greatest sports stories I have ever witnessed. I just wish the media and other folks just let it naturally be what it is and stop trying to create more of a story.

Lin burst into the media spotlight earlier in 2012 when due to an abundance of key Knicks injuries, he was given an opportunity to play and he made the most of it. It was truly a sports magical moment. He sparkled on court, giving opponents fits, the Knicks a needed boost and the fans something great to cheer about. And not only did he play great, he was helping the Knicks win games.

What really made Lin's story amazing was his background. He was the ultimate underdog story, making it big against all odds. It wasn't just that he was an unknown bench player who capitalized on his opportunity, Lin is of Asian decent and played college basketball at Harvard. Bottom line is you just don't have many Asian or Ivy League players making it in the NBA. It was refreshing to see and couldn't have been written any better if it was a fictional tale.

The problem is people are trying to rewrite this story. No one enjoyed Lin's rise to fame more than I did, but the truth is Lin is not a superstar player. I predicted in a previous post that Lin would not even be starting for the Knicks at the end of last season and he wasn't - it was really due to injury but his "pixie dust" was fading too. It's amazing how your fortune can change when you've now been scouted and analyzed by other teams.  I think Lin is a good player, a role player that can contribute and he can have a decent NBA career. But that doesn't fit the fairy tale most are setting out for him, which created all the hype around whether the Knicks should have matched the Rockets' offer sheet.

I believe the Knicks not matching the Rockets offer was the right move. New York went in another direction and traded for point guard Raymond Felton, who recently had success in the the Big Apple. Felton is a better player than Lin. Felton is totally an upgrade at that position. And for Lin, he was able to parlay his "moment" into a nice healthy contract - I can't blame him at all for signing it. So it really was a win-win for the Knicks and Lin. The Knicks should not be trashed for allowing Lin to leave; they will always have the most exciting chapter in this story. Unfortunately for those that believe the hype,  the best part of this tale is probably already over.

Friday, June 22, 2012

2011 - 2012 NBA Champions: Miami Heat

The Miami Heat soundly defeated the Oklahoma City Thunder 121 - 106 in Game 5 of the NBA Finals to win the franchise's second NBA Championship. LeBron James recorded a triple double (26 points, 11 rebounds, 13 assists) in the game and snatched NBA Finals MVP. The proverbial monkey is now off of James' back. He has his ring and he was a critical contributor to the championship.

The Heat started off the series dropping Game 1 in OKC, but grabbed home court advantage by stealing Game 2. When the series switched to Miami I don't think there were many people who thought the series wouldn't make it back to OKC. After taking Game 3, Miami had a 2 - 1 series lead and a little momentum. Game 4 was the pivotal game in the series. The Thunder, who started off each game very slowly offensively, finally came out the gate hot. They did a lot of great things during the course of the game but was frustrated by the officiating. Their frustration grew bigger and bigger as they seemly was not getting the proper calls.  Miami made adjustments and went on a run between the 2nd & 3rd quarters. The home town crowd began to get extremely loud just the way that they do in OKC. The Thunder was losing control and broke; they became rattled. The moment suddenly seemed too big for them. They started turning the ball over and making bad decisions on the court. Kevin Durant, the league's leading scorer, was starting to not look like himself. James Harden, who was the Sixth Man of the Year and was an assertive player suddenly became tentative. Russell Westbrook was the only player who seemed unfazed; he almost single-handedly won the game for them. But OKC fell short and suddenly found themselves in a 3 -1 series hole when they should have tied the series up and guaranteed another game back in OKC. Their season then came to a "thunderous" end as the Heat torched them in Game 5.

Ultimately, I feel the Heat won this series because they executed on offense better than the Thunder did. Aside from Game 1, the Heat didn't have the scoring droughts that plagued them throughout the playoffs. They moved the ball beautifully on offense, playing unselfish team basketball. The Thunder on the other hand had their offensive struggles. They relied too heavily on their perimeter game and at times didn't even appear to run any offensive sets. Also, the Heat role players were fabulous; Shane Battier, Mario Chalmers, Udonis Haslem, Norris Cole and Mike Miller all had big moments in this series that significantly contributed to the Heat's championship. It didn't take long for the big three, James, Dwyane Wade and Chris Bosh to bring the championship to South Beach. Like it or not, these fellas got it done this year after coming just 2 wins away from almost doing it last season (their first together). They were heavy favorites at the start of this season, had their struggles throughout the regular season and playoffs but eventually still came out on top. The Thunder took a nice step in the championship direction this year. They had a nice playoff run but just couldn't quite leap over the last hurdle. James' destiny with the Larry O'Brien trophy was standing awfully tall.

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

2012 NBA Finals: Miami Heat vs. Oklahoma City Thunder

The 2012 NBA Finals will feature the Miami Heat vs. the Oklahoma City Thunder. There are several storylines that we will not be able to escape over the next few days and a good number of them will surround the current NBA MVP LeBron James. You know it, you've heard it a million times: will James finally get the monkey off of his back and win his first championship? And if he does is he still worthy of being an all time great? Right now all of that really doesn't matter. As much as we'd like to make it all about LeBron, this series will be more about the teams.

For the Heat, the wait is finally over. After losing last year in the NBA Finals to the Dallas Mavericks, nothing short of returning to the Finals would have been acceptable in many critics' eyes. The "heat" has been on the Heat ever since James & Chris Bosh decided to join forces with Dwyane Wade to win a championship. Their collaboration, along with some antics by the trio has rubbed many people the wrong way. Powerhouses will naturally attract haters and the Heat have more than their fair share of them. But the hate has clouded many folks of their good judgement. Say what you want about Miami but they have done great things as a unit since the stars have banded together. Last year, their first season together, they were merely two wins away from winning the whole thing.  This year, on paper, they had a clear lane to the Finals with first round injuries (particularly the Chicago Bulls Derrick Rose) inflicting would be challengers, but they still did what they had to do on the floor. They easily disposed of the New York Knicks, and their talent overcame challenging series against the Indiana Pacers and Boston Celtics. I was astonished to hear the professional basketball analyst put verbal toe tags on the Heat after they went down 3 - 2 in the Eastern Conference Finals vs. the Celtics. As if the Heat couldn't muster up winning two games in a row against an inconsistent and aging Celtic squad. To their amazement (certainly not mines) Miami did just that, winning both in Boston and the back at home in convincing fashion. Miami has its flaws but don't let the hate freeze your brain, this team is very good and capable of winning it all.

You down with OKC? Yeah you know me! You down with OKC?.......The Thunder is a young and exciting team that has captured the imagination of many fans around the country, sans the greater Seattle area. Led by their superstar Kevin Durant and emerging stars Russell Westbrook and James Harden, OKC can run the floor with the best of them. Their road to the Finals increasingly became tougher with each series: it started with a sweep of the defending champion Mavs, then a 4 - 1 series win over the Los Angeles Lakers and then a 4 - 2 series win in the Western Conference Finals against the San Antonio Spurs. The next series will probably be their toughest. The Thunder have opened up a few eyes with their Finals appearance. I think a lot of people knew they were coming but not many thought their time would be this year when the season started. But the Thunder battled for a good portion of the season for the league's best record and gained the confidence and respect of fans and the media along the way. Though you have to feel bad for the fans that the Thunder left behind in Seattle when they were formerly the Supersonics, it is refreshing to see the home town support that the team receives in Oklahoma City. They are loud, enthusiastic and could become a factor in this series as the Thunder will enjoy home court advantage.

This is series should be fun to watch. Both teams are talented and skilled; I wouldn't be shocked at all if either team won. This current Heat team obviously have a lot riding on this Finals. A loss by them in this series will prove to be two straight years of failing in the Finals and the critics will only get louder. They will have to wait yet another year to try to get in the Finals to prove themselves again. I believe they can taste it and they could shut a lot of people up by sealing the deal. The Thunder on the other hand doesn't have that kind of pressure. If they lose this series it'll be viewed as a nice natural progression for the team and they will be favored to come back to the Finals in the near future. Realistically though OKC can't count on that. A team is never guaranteed a return trip to the Finals no matter how much potential they have. I don't think the Heat will fold to the outside pressure but I do think the Thunder will take this series. OKC will have to stay away from trying win every game with jumpers and establish some post and penetration half court offense. I think the Thunder have the offensive players to exploit the Heat defense. Westbrook is quick and can create his own shot though I echo those who say Durant must touch the ball more. Serge Ibaka and Kendrick Perkins should have an offensive advantage over the bigs of the Heat. The Thunder also will have to buckle down on defense, something they showed us when they played the Spurs late in that series. As explosive as Miami's offense can be, they have shown stretches of stagnation that will hurt them in this series. The Thunder have had those bouts too but I believe they'll overcome that in the Finals. Also the Heat have been awful from the free throw line in these playoffs and that will cause them to lose a game or two in this series which should feature close games. So I'll take the Thunder to win their first championship in Oklahoma City and the Heat to take the wrath of the haters for yet another season.

Monday, June 11, 2012

2011 - 2012 Stanley Cup Champions: Los Angeles Kings

The Los Angeles Kings, who was the #8 and last seed in the Western Conference playoffs, slammed the New Jersey Devils 6 - 1 in Game 6 to become the 2011 - 2012 Stanley Cup Champs!!!!!!! Los Angeles met the challenge of facing their first game in playoffs in which they had pressure directly on their shoulders to win. A Game 6 loss would have been the Kings 3rd in a row and would have sent the series back to Newark with the Devils having all of the momentum. They played with urgency in the first period and capitalized on a five minute major penalty on the Devils Steve Bernier. Three goals was scored on that major PP and it sealed the fate of the series. The Game 6 win gave the Kings their first championship in franchise history and their run to the Cup was quite historic:

- The Kings went 10 - 1 on the road in the playoffs (amazing!).
- They jumped out to a 3 - 0 lead in all four of their playoff series (really amazing!).
- Only once did they lose consecutive games (Games 4 & 5 Stanley Cup Final).
- First #8 seed to win the Stanley Cup.

The Kings were desinted to win the Cup this year and their playoff fate started on the last day of the regular season. A loss by LA to the San Jose Sharks coupled with a Phoenix Coyotes win over the Minnesota Wild on April 7th sent the Kings to the 8th seed in the West. No one could have ever imagined that they would go on to knock off the top three seeds in the West and then go on to win the Stanley Cup. The man that led the charge for the Kings was their goalie and Conn Smythe winner Jonathan Quick who despite having two bad games in the Stanley Cup Final (both Kings loses), was stellar throughout the playoffs.

Congratulations to the Kings organization and their fans. Their playoff run was amazing to watch. I have never seen anything quite like it. Can they do it again next season??  Who cares, let the City of Angels enjoy this for now!!!!

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

2012 NHL Stanley Cup Finals: New Jersey Devils vs. Los Angeles Kings

The New Jersey Devils and Los Angeles Kings are ready to square off for the right to raise the Lord Stanley's Cup. The Devils and Kings are the last two teams standing after neither received a lot of attention when the playoffs started as potential Cup winners.

The Devils are the #6 seed out of the Eastern Conference and defeated the Florida Panthers, Philadelphia Flyers and the New York Rangers on their way to the Cup finals. Led by their captain Zach Parise and future Hall of Fame goalie Marty Brodeur, New Jersey struggled at times in the playoffs. They almost didn't even get out of the first round against the Panthers who took them to a Game 7. And the #1 Eastern Conference seed Rangers had a 2 -1 series lead against them before they ripped off 3 straight wins. But the Devils "even keel" approach kept them on track to the Finals.

On the other hand the Western Conference #8 seed Los Angeles Kings has made their run look a bit easier. The Kings are 12 - 2 in the playoffs and in each of their series against the Vancouver Canucks, St. Louis Blues and Phoenix Coyotes (seeds 1, 2 & 3 respectively) they jumped out to a 3 games to none lead. Los Angeles has yet to lose a road game in these playoffs. They are led by goalie Jonathan Quick, who by far has been the best keeper in the playoffs.

The Kings will start the Stanley Cup Finals on the road again, a familiar pattern that has been successful for them. But this time they have to travel all the way to the east coast. Will the long trek east have negative effects on their road dominance? Or will their seemly destined journey to have their names engraved on the Cup come to fruition? The Devils are a sneaky team; they look bad at times but have a knack for getting victories despite that. As much as I respect New Jersey and Brodeur, I'm picking the Kings to win. I just would be shocked if they don't continue on the roll that they are on.

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Absurdity about Linsanity: State of the New York Knicks Today

New York Knicks head coach Mike D'Antoni resigned today. The fact that he eventually separated from the team is not really a surprise. Knicks management didn't really seem to have his back completely, as they didn't extended his contract (which was due to expire at the end of the season). There was definitely a "wait and see" approach and unfortunately what we've seen has not been good.

The Knicks have looked pretty bad lately and it has frustrated throngs of fans who was hopeful during the "Linsanity" period of the season. Jeremy Lin was an unexpected spark for the team when superstars Carmelo Anthony and Amare Stoudemire suddenly were absent from the lineup. Lin plays with energy, passion and desire; attributes that are very much appreciated by New York fans. But while Linsanity took over the world, insanity has taken over a lot of fans. Jeremy Lin is a good second year player, he is not an all-pro. No one liked his story more than I did but too many fans believed the hype. Thankfully Lin didn't. He is one of the most grounded young players in the league which is definitely going to help his growth and longevity in the NBA.

Some fans are blaming Carmelo Anthony for the Knicks failures. On the surface, it may look that way. When Anthony was out, the Knicks were winning; since he has returned they have been losing. But it isn't that simple. Part of the Lin's success was due to the league not being familiar to his game. Adjustments have since been made. Drives, passes & shots have not come as easy as they once did (for Lin). Funny how the NBA works that way.

To suggest that Lin should be on the team and Anthony should not is absurd. Lin is NOT better for the Knicks than Anthony. With that being said, the Knicks will have to find the right mix of players on the floor. I happen to think that Baron Davis is a better fit as a starter and Lin would be great providing energy off the bench. With no training camp this year due to the NBA lockout and the Knicks trading half the team away for Anthony last season, this team needs more time to meld. Knicks fans are going to have to be a tad more patient and stop thinking with such absurdity.